“Can you bring these gifts to my uncle in Salt Lake?” Siliote asked me the day before my flight home for Christmas.
“I’m sorry I’m going to California” I explained, “It’s very far from Utah”
“Oh” she replied disappointed.
“Kind of like Tonga and Fiji….I would have to take a plane”
Tonga is a country where everybody seems to know everybody with 2 degrees of separation or less. Villages consist of a few key extended families, and often as soon as you hear someone’s last name, you can usually find out a lot about them.
My journey home for the holidays was like a return to another world. I could have sat in LAX people watching for hours; mesmerized by all the strangers, and the eclectic mix of cultures busily bustling around. The human traffic at the airport felt bigger than the entire population of my island (Vava’u only has 20,000 people).
But as soon as the car came honking to pick me up, I was swept right back into my old life. It was so wonderful to be with friends and family again! It wasn’t really until my last week home that I felt how disoriented I was wandering out of my island bubble. As I sat in my old bedroom, for a split second it felt like my life in Tonga wasn’t real.
It was a bit far to visit Siliote’s uncle in Salt Lake, so instead I went to see a couple of families related to my village living in N. California. My student’s brother lives in Palo Alto and my home stay family’s daughter and son live in San Mateo. It was absolutely wonderful to meet them. Seeing these extended family members transported me right back to my island again. Here we were miles away from Tonga, but so much of the culture stayed the same. The family immediately wrapped me up in warm welcomes, and I went right back into babbling away in Tongan, sharing laughs and smiles.
It’s reassuring to remember that America, land of immigrants, has pockets of Tongan communities I will be able to stay connected with in the future. These two years don’t make up some solitary experience that will just end when I leave. Rather, I will forever communicate with the families and friends I have come to know so well out here, and no matter where the next adventure takes me Tonga will always be a part of my life.
